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if your frame for loving a woman is rooted primarily in what she does for you, then you need to rethink your concept of love

#relationships #love

one of the bitterest discoveries of life is realizing that being loved well doesn't solve your issues. instead, it just makes them more visible...

#love #relationships

when i say that my Wife enjoys torturing me, based on what i post you might imagine something sensual, or whips and rope or something like that. but nah.

but what it really looks like is She just has me wash and dry a pair of kitchen shears so She can open a popsicle for the little one, then throw them right back into the dirty sink. :/

#love #relationships

being yourself doesn't mean staying yourself, staying fixed.

being yourself involves growing and changing~ even for another.

to love and be loved demands transformation. :3

#growth #relationships #love

loving and honoring someone's inner child doesn't involve treating them like a child. wanting to be nurtured and cared for is simply a part of a loving connection.

wanting to be treated like a child—to escape responsibility entirely—is not "submissive." it means there is still an unresolved wound that needs to heal.

there's a meaningful difference between relinquishing and escaping.

#love #relationships

how she acts without him:

how he acts without her:

#zelink #love

prepping burgers inside. Wifey's been outside with the little one. She walks in with the most "wtf are you doing?" look on Her face. my heart just flutters. jfc She's so breathtaking.

no offense to the other wifey's, but i have the best one. y'all get it though :3

#love #merica250

there comes a point as a sub when you've integrated who you are and how you love so well that there is no more "submissive" you and "normal" you—there's just you.

and at that point, when you've known someone so well, that love, that submission, just kind of flows instead of needing thought or effort, like it functions at a more instinctual level.

you don't have to always seek clarity about what She wants, because you know what She values and wants prioritized. you no longer have to think about where to sit in a room with Her, because your body knows where She wants you placed.

alignment with Her begins to feel like a part of who you are.

#FLR #relationships #love

my experience of submission within an #FLR

#FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #love

this is called nonsense.

it implies that women don't inherently have strength—that power is something given to her by a man. but women are fierce, determined, intelligent, loving, and capable of great things without a man.

it implies that love weakens a man. but in my experience, i have discovered (and still discovering) greater strength within myself through loving (and learning to love) Her.

if anything, it's the reverse.

but there is no exchange in love. there is only love. and love makes us stronger. it's more like a synergy of power than an exchange.

#love #relationships

some guys "provide" because they believe it grants them access and means they're in charge.

i "provide" because i believe Her presence demands offering and it is an expression of my gratitude.

same motions; totally different energy.

#FLR #love #gratitude #relationships

the cool thing about being a sub in an #FLR is that i can express feelings of overwhelm, struggle, and stress to my Wife without fear. and be loved and respected for it.

no need to worry about saving face or holding "frame" or whatever that is. no need to hold it in and let it simmer into anger or avoidant tendencies. no need to allow it to bleed into family life and work relationships.

just honest #vulnerability and #love.

#relationships

you ever just stare at your partner and feel completely awestruck~?

#marriage #love #imaluckyboy

~ And you are a garden entwined with all

You are the silence on sacred shores

You've got diamonds for teeth, my love

So take a bite of me just once ~

#lyrics #romance #love #passion

#gfd #love #vibes

"… she tortures me, tortures me with her love… In the past it was only that infernal body of hers that tortured me, but now I've taken all her soul into my soul and through her I've become a man."

#quotes #dostoevsky #love #tomance #FLR

She hates waiting on me... ...but i adore waiting on Her

#love #romance #bestdynamic

when each day begins, remind yourself that you shall meet the sharp word, the averted glance, the trial of silence. these are not evils, but movements of a heart burdened by its own wounds, as yours is by yours; to take offense would be to forget that every soul acts from what it deems right, and that blindness to good is the common wound of humankind.

yet the wound in others cannot fix upon you what is ugly; just as you cannot be harmed by those who act in ignorance of good and evil, no silence of Her can diminish the part of you that belongs to Her, nor can any word undo the calm you keep in Her name.

therefore as you grant pity to those who err through ignorance, you must extend to Her the grace of understanding—as one beneath Her. for ignorance and wisdom alike are of nature, and you are not tasked with judgment but with steadiness; as such, you are made for cooperation, not contention—for harmony, not pride.

whatever harshness She shows shall be revealed by your stillness and purified through your loving devotion.

#Devotions #goodboymindset #mindfulness #stoicism #patience #grace #steadiness #love

how it started:

how it's going:

#love #growth

unbridled passion delivered exquisitely through every tender kiss

#love #romance #passion

was thinking about this post all day. and i have to say, the description regarding that feeling of infatuation in this post is so well put. for me, this is very similar in how i experience surrender—falling into infatuation, teetering on obsession, drowning in devotion—meow yes...

that feeling... of eagerness to please. of recklessness to provide. of complete enchantment from but a glimpse of Her eyes; and the way the light hits them in a certain way, illuminating Her beauty in what is just a mundane moment...

however...

first, i have to feel like that such a level of vulnerability and surrender are welcomed, valued, and has a safe place with Her; which takes a foundation of trust... deep trust.

and that trust is what makes it possible to keep that mindset of devotion present even after seeing Her "flawed humanity." because it's no longer a response, but an active choice—a baseline.

#flr #love #romance #passion #relationships

i adore the ways She reorients my priorities <3

#flr #gfd #vibes #love #romance

i saw only Her. the room appeared full of Her... my eyes... Her alone...

#cute #art #artstr #love #haiku

this reminds me of when Wifey first moved in with me. i only had a twin bed so i slept on the floor for a couple of nights until we got a bigger bed.

i remember being so amazed that such a cute girl was in my bed—in my apartment. absolutely blown away :3

#cute #romance #nostalgia #love

repoasting for the weekend crew. felt like something worth sharing.

:3

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #integrity #love #longform #grownostr

had a lot of thoughts about integrity lately and how much my relationship has changed over the years. so i figured i'd put them into something and share.

let me know what you think ^.^

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #integrity #love #longform #grownostr

i offered You my heart~

i didn't know who i was i had no identity and yet... You took it You accepted it

and despite all my messiness despite all my noise Your acceptance Your love helped me to understand that i could choose my own identity

and so i chose to become a man worthy of loving You a man capable of cherishing~ cherishing the heart You entrusted to me...

#flr #love #romance #writings #scribblings #art #artstr

obsession was never just a phase; it's become a mark. i can't get over You. i can never move on. forevermore i will carry this scar, savoring its burn...

#flr #romance #love #grownostr

freedom just feels like loneliness and exile without You...

#flr #gfd #art #artstr #love #romance #grownostr

"I would wait 10,000 years for you."

#zelink #art #artstr #love #otp #grownostr

good boy energy isn't simply comply, comply, comply. good boy energy is where all of his actions begin and end with these words written in his heart: "i love Her"

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #love #relationships #grownostr

integrity is the alignment between your words, actions, and energy.

integrity requires clarity within yourself. without it, even doing the "right things" will have an emotional hesitance within it.

you can't fully choose another until you fully choose yourself.

#relationships #love #integrity

the need to be right is the ego. the fantasy is the ego.

it's impossible to surrender, it's impossible to love while defending the ego.

#flr #love

some insights about consistent, intentional connection in relationships.

feedback is always welcome ^^

#relationships #love #initmacy #connection #longform #grownostr

#gfd #vibes #manga #romance #love #grownostr

"maintenance is cheaper than repairing. what you don't maintain, you eventually lose."

#quotes #relationships #love

"when i leave this body, people will ask— what did he do with his life?

i knew You, Beloved. that was enough."

#romance #love #quotes #gfd #art #artstr #grownostr

tell me... did You love me when i first showed You my soul? or was it when i learned to hold Yours gently?

#love #devotion #romance #art #artstr #grownostr

take my hands... ...take my whole life

#romance #love #devotion

#art #artstr #rose #love

one of the most beautiful things about being allowed to be hopelessly lost in orbit around a Woman—my Goddess, the love of my life—is the blessing of beholding, admiring, marveling at every side of Her being.

#love #romance #grownostr

and for that moment—in that very instant, i held the entire universe in my hands...

#chivalry #romance #love #grownostr

honestly, it's this but the i get to make Her coffee or tea and massage Her feet afterwards. <3

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #gfd #love #romance #grownostr

#gfd #love #memes #memestr #grownostr

#cute #love #memes #memestr #caturday #grownostr

#love #romance #memes #memestr #grownostr

my role, in an #FLR, isn't to "fix" my Wife, but to surrender to, serve, and support Her. if i create a box that says "dominant" and try to fit Her in it, that's just unhealthy and breaks the dynamic.

the framework is to create a space where She can be as much of Herself as possible without dismissing or withdrawing from Her anxieties, worries, anger, or hurt. instead, learning to surrender to them, love Her through them, and to cherish every part of Her.

to see Her wholeness without pleading to be consumed by Her, but by becoming an invitation, an offering of myself—an active living out of being consumed through Her emotions. because Her gift to me is simply Her presence, Her Feminine presence, and without it i have no compass. i am lost.

#FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #love #surrender #chivalry #grownostr

you can't truly #love if you cling to being "right"

it's like this with #love

you don't have to shrink yourself in order to be held...

#love #relationships #intimacy #grownostr

"My Dear, my Sweet, my Darling, I miss you, I long for you—if you only knew how much—"

#quotes #love #romance #passion #grownostr

the journey of a submissive has shown and taught me so much about myself. the fantasy fades quickly. deep, soul-level devotion is so much more than something that's put on for a weekend. this type of commitment rests on years of mistakes, hurt, introspection, honesty, accountability, vulnerability, trust, humility, discipline, apologies, perseverance, and on and on and on. the fantasy of surrender can't support the lifestyle.

#flr #relationships #love #growth #grownostr

how could i not love eyes that see me... in all my flaws, in all my messiness, in all my inconsistencies, and still see me as beautiful..?

#flr #gfd #love #romance #art #artstr #grownostr

how to #love a Woman:

surrender, like #love, is easy when things are smooth.

but when life gets stressful, when it gets quiet—when boundaries are held, when corrections are made, when things fall apart—those are moments when #surrender is truly tested and when it matters most.

those are the moments when his #character and the depth of his commitment are revealed.

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #chivalry #grownostr

She is not "too much" She is everything

#flr #romance #intimacy #love #grownostr

a part of my journey that i tried to put into words; figured i'd share <3

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #love #connection #innerwork #grownostr

it doesn't matter how much money you have or how successful you are, if you're unable to properly tend to a woman's heart and soul she can't give you love.

#relationships #love #grownostr

love is a verb, but isn't a checklist of items to tick off. love != obligations

#relationships #love #grownostr

this is not something that "takes practice" this is something that takes intention

it took so long to be with Her consistently...

i couldn't love Her through Her emotions until i could love Her through my own

#relationships #love #grownostr

a thirteen-word love letter: "I don't know how you put up with me—I couldn't do it."

translation: "I see you." "I appreciate you." "Thank you for holding me even when I'm messy." "Thank you for loving me even when I'm difficult."

#relationships #love #grownostr

true surrender—true love—will cost you your illusions love isn't blind; you can't be "blind" and truly love

#flr #relationships #love #grownostr

marriage isn't the goal marriage is the starting point "happily ever after" skips over the whole story

#relationships #marriage #love #grownostr

"ten-thousand men lusting over You doesn't compare to a single man adoring Your entire existence."

"Better get to adoring, yes, love?"

#FLR #marriage #love #adoration #grownostr

"tell me more" <3

#cute #gfd #vibes #comic #art #artstr #love #grownostr

i'm not saying this is exactly how it played out, but... nyaaa~

#cute #gfd #art #artstr #grownostr #love

"I knew I did from that first moment we met. It was... not love at first sight exactly, but - familiarity. Like: oh, hello, it's you. It's going to be you. Game over." ~Mhairi McFarlane

#quote #love #marriage #relationships #grownostr

yes. relatable. it wasn't love at first sight. i didn't even know what love was. but it's a comfort; a feeling of ease. something that causes you to pause internally, even if it's just a for a moment before you start back on your usual illusions, and think, "yeah, i'd strive to be better for Her."

what was your "moment" like?

#asknostr

i fell into Her orbit and couldn't escape i fell into Her orbit and don't want to break free

#flr #romance #passion #love #gfd #vibes #grownostr

3yo climbed into bed this morning and cuddled with Wifey. then said "mama. you're my beeeeest fren."

and omg ;_____________;

#thingsthatfillyourheart

#parenting #momstr #love #grownostr

"soulmates" are a result of effort.

your "soulmate" is the person you put your energy into; the one who you can learn to accept as is; the one who accepts you as you are, yet inspires your potential.

#relationships #love #grownostr

Wifey has been feeling extra confident this week. that makes Her a bit more demanding, but also makes me melt a lot easier lol i've been a busy kitty lately :3

#FLR #love #thinkingoutloud

"Can I count on you to put My needs ahead of yours, without compromise, and to do absolutely everything I ask?"

"yes, Ma'am"

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #love #devotion #grownostr

love is action, not a feeling

#relationships #love #grownostr

a Woman cherished and respected becomes a sanctuary

#FLR #chivalry #romance #love #grownostr

pure devotion begins when your aching no longer screams: "please see me~! please claim me~!" but instead whispers: "i ache to serve Her, even when She doesn't see me."

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #love #devotion #grownostr

my telescope aims into night, observing Her through glass and light. though time has granted deeper views, at dusk, Her shifts bring skies anew.

vexed by the orbit of Her will, it leaves me breathless, learning still, Her path, in quiet arcs of flame, drawn to follow, not to claim.

i chart a course by Her fair glow, in awe of depths i'll never know. near, yet distant, i learn to see, love's not in hands, but in the plea.

reluctant to grasp, but only adore, and find Her mystery worth waiting for.

#FLR #poetry #poemaday #love #yearning #relationships #marriage #grownostr

She is known, yet unknowable She is close, yet distant She is human, yet divine

(painting: "At Last, my Lovely" by Jack Vettriano)

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #art #artstr #painting #paintstr #love #grownostr

#cute #vibes #love #intimacy #gfd #anime #grownostr

this is to say that an authentic desire to truly love another person will, very inconveniently, shine a light through all the places you're not whole and demand that you heal them instead of excuse them.

#relationships #love #healing #grownostr

is being loved a fundamental need? i think most would say yes.

but what about being desired?—would you consider that a need, also? or is it selfish?

is being desired part of what being loved means to you, or are they separate concepts?

please share your thoughts :3

#relationships #love #intimacy #grownostr #asknostr

when you are let into a Woman's heart, you'll discover a depth of emotion and pain that will pierce the essence of your soul. She is both the princess and the dragon—the beauty and the beast. the test of strength isn't to slay the dragon or tame the beast. the test of strength is in staying—in loving and embracing every part of Her.

(artwork by: yourfreakyneighbourh)

#relationships #love #chivalry #art #artstr #grownostr

last week i was curious about spontaneous vs. planned "intimate" moments. i think most preferred spontaneous moments—maybe because planning is such a terrible word to be associated with intimacy. planning sounds like scheduling, which sounds like work, which sounds... not fun.

however, i think there is a bit of planning (maybe this is the wrong word) that goes into the energy for those "spontaneous" moments happen. perhaps this is overlooked, especially in the beginning of a relationship when things seem "easier." my take is that more will, attention, and intentionality is needed to maintain this energy as two lives merge into one.

the idea of keeping the "flame on simmer" was mentioned and i really loved it. so here are some questions:

do you feel this requires an intentional effort on your part, or is it something that happens almost unconsciously? what are things you do to keep the flame simmering?

#marriage #relationships #romance #love #intimacy #grownostr #asknostr

to serve, to love. to be embraced—accepted. to create a space where Her strength and my devotion intertwine. to ignite the mundane with a passionate zeal every day. over and over again.

#relationships #love #marriage #grownostr

i remember that feeling. how it changed me...

when—for the first time— You touched my hand.

that moment... i remember...

wanting nothing more than to hold it forever...

#relationships #romance #love #intimacy #grownostr

#cute #vibes #love #grownostr

"We shall never escape each other."

~Edna St. Vincent Millay

#FLR #romance #intimacy #love #quotes #blackandwhite #grownostr

"Erotic intimacy holds the double promise of finding oneself and losing oneself. It is an experience of merging and of total self-absorption, of mutuality and selfishness. To be inside another and inside ourselves at the same time is a double stance that borders on the mystical. The momentary oneness we feel with our beloved grows out of our ability to acknowledge our indissoluble separateness. In order to be one, you must first be two."

~Esther Perel

#relationships #quotes #intimacy #love #eroticism #grownostr

home is not always a place

#relationships #love #grownostr

deep inside exists a heightened sense of self-preservation— a natural propensity to express and demonstrate individuality— an inherent fear of closeness, of vulnerability.

this inspires a natural vigilance against being consumed—through connection and through love.

paradoxically, this makes the sensation of being owned—of being devoured—so insanely erotic.

#FLR #D/s #love #passion #desire #relationships #grownostr

a simple love note: "i see You and everything You do for me. i recognize how You guide me and hold me. i feel how loving and gracious You are. thank You. it doesn't go unnoticed. and i will continue to work hard for You."

#FLR #relationships #love #gratitude #grownostr

She drank deep from his love—and he gave himself completely... fervently...

#art #artstr #romance #love #grownostr

from here—i see You i see Your struggles, Your fears, Your doubts, Your anger, Your anxiety, Your hurt i see You i see Your courage, Your resiliency, Your wisdom, Your kindness, Your strength, Your love i see You and i love all of You

#relationships #love #grownostr

attention is the currency of love

#relationships #love #grownostr

"do you think it's easy, not biting the one you love? try loving someone so much your mouth is only at home in the place where your teeth meet the flesh of your beloved."

#romance #love #quote #grownostr

"how do i get my Wife to be more dominant?" make Her feel loved

"how do i get my Wife to be more?" make Her feel loved

"how do i get my Wife?" make Her feel loved

"how do i...?" make Her feel loved

ultimately, ensuring that She always feels loved is the answer to everything. ^.^

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #love #grownostr

i don't love Her only because of what She does for me. i don't love Her only because of who She is.

i love Her because of what i become from loving Her. i love Her because of how She shapes and molds me through Her love. i love Her because of how She inspires me...

... how i am more than i could ever be without Her.

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #love #grownostr

often, submissiveness is framed as something weak or something sexual. but the heart of true submission is found in small, considerate, everyday actions that stem from love, not obligation. this makes it empowering and visible in all aspects of life.

genuine submission looks like a man who is caring and kind and considerate because he loves his Wife—not because he has to. it looks like a man who loves his family and takes great pride in serving and taking care of them.

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #love #masculinity #grownostr