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thoughts on PDA (public displays of affection)? vote in poll below

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if you had a third arm, where would you want it at??

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is #coinos nwc just not working anymore or is it just me..?

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gonna go on vacation soon. anyone have a good #retrogames to play before i play through another ff1 mod again..?

#gaming #retrogaming #asknostr

do any other guys like the smell of their wife's clothes?

like, i know women typically will take their guy's hoodie or something because they like the smell.

do any other guys do the same thing..? because, my Wife will leave the shirt She slept in on the bed or something and it just smells sssoooooooo good. like, so so good. <3

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you ever walk into a public restroom and hear a dude fighting for his life so hard that you just say a silent prayer and leave?

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ugh i'll be on a business trip next week and i'm going to miss Wifey and the little one so much. i feel a pang of anxiety.

when you are away from your loved ones, how do you stay connected? what does it look like for you?

#relationships #asknostr

"are we all just slobs with different ways of hiding our crap..?"

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ladies~ do you find innocence in a man (a partner) something attractive or wholesome or refreshing?

or not at all?

#asknostr #relationships

do you find empathy a rare trait in others? do you find it easy or difficult to be empathetic to others?

#relationships #asknostr

wyd?

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gentlemen: what makes you feel safe enough to open up emotionally in a relationship?

#relationships #asknostr

gentlemen: what do you value more—your honor or your ambitions/desires? why?

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ladies~ have you lost respect for, or did you think less of a guy after seeing him cry? not just any guy—specifically, a significant other.

why or why not?

is it contextual?

#asknostr #relationships #vulnerability

#nostr , what items/accessories do you equip everyday?

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for me, it's my wedding band, a watch, and a special bracelet from Wifey with an air tag so i don't get lost.

daily check-in: how are you?

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daily check-in: how are you holding up today, #nostr ?

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what game has the best ost?

i'll start:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7_QydNXI_ok

#gaming #gamestr #asknostr

daily check-in: how are you, #nostr ?

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daily check-in: how goes it? :3

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daily check-in: how are your feels today, #nostr ?

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daily check-in: how are you today?

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the fragile, or wounded masculine seeks to appear powerful.

the healing masculine seeks to be truthful.

hmmm... thoughts~?

#masculinity #asknostr

daily check-in: how are you, #nostr ?

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daily check-in: how are you feeling today?

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daily check in~~~ how are you today?

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daily check-in: how are you feeling today?

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daily check-in: how's it going, #nostr ?

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daily check-in: how are you feeling?

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daily check-in: how are you doing?

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you ever have those dejavu moments where everything feels so familiar and you're not sure whether you should make the same choice to see if it turns out the same or make a different one to change destiny..? or is that just me?

#asknostr

is it really post-nut clarity or just emotional numbness..?

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would you rather be the poem or the poet?

#asknostr #grownostr

you haven't lived as a man until you've begged at a Woman's feet. i won't elaborate. AMA

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Wifey is enjoying these activities more than the little one, it seems :3

who is the turkey?

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ladies: what does "dominance" in a man mean to you?

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what's an "unpopular opinion" that you live by?

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do nachos count for taco tuesday?

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what could fix you right now? #asknostr

i'll start. this:

i feel like hand kissing is so underrated. what do you think, #nostr ?

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#nostr , if i were a real cat would you pspspss me?

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what means more to you in a relationship: political "principles" or deep connection?

or

do you consider political principles to be a prerequisite for love?

#relationships #asknostr

i think i would have fit into 1920s fairly well. so many interesting gentlemen—these are hilarious. i'm definitely the bottom-right. maybe the top-right.

which type of "boy friend" are you? :3

#history #1920s #asknostr

gentlemen: what kinds of things do you do for your wife/gf that make you desirable to her?—not sexually, but in a more intimate fashion. what do you offer to her that makes you desirable and irreplaceable?

#relationships #marriage #asknostr

does anyone still get the butterflies when asking their Wife out on a date..?

#asknostr #relationships

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ladies: what are your thoughts about chivalry? is it something you commonly see? how do you feel when you observe a gentleman embodying chivalry?

would you feel comfortable with your guy extending it to other women? or do you prefer it exclusively for you?

#chivalry #asknostr

gentlemen: what are your thoughts on chivalry? specifically in regards to women. were you raised with examples? do you practice it? is it something you only reserve for your significant other? or do you extend it to other women also?

#chivalry #asknostr

why is female competence so unbelievably sexy?? 🔥🔪💞🙀💀

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ladies: what are some things that your guy does that has you longing for and craving him?

#relationships #asknostr

if you are the architect of your own demise, does that make you a successful architect?

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gentlemen: what does it mean or what does it take, in your opinion, to reach manhood?

#masculinity #asknostr

what do you add to your morning coffee? :3

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nostrversary is coming up soon. what do?? :3

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ladies: what makes you feel respected in a romantic relationship?

#relationships #asknostr

do you feel like respect is a prerequisite to love? respect must be earned, do you feel like love must be earned also?

#relationships #asknostr

what's more important to you in a relationship: feeling loved or feeling respected?

#relationships #asknostr

gentlemen: what does it mean for you to be chosen by (or desired by) a woman?

#relationships #asknostr

what's a question, that when asked, changed the way you view the world?

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gentlemen, what do you fear more: being truly seen? or living a life of insignificance?

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ladies, what makes you feel safe in a relationship?

#relationships #asknostr

what makes you feel unsafe inside a relationship?

#relationships #asknostr

what if instead of focusing if our own needs are being met, we focused on ensuring our partner's needs are being met?

this requires a degree of vulnerability, which relies on trust. is this something that you personally find difficult?

#relationships #intimacy #asknostr

what's up with all the fake profile bots following a bunch of npubs? i don't get it...

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"I knew I did from that first moment we met. It was... not love at first sight exactly, but - familiarity. Like: oh, hello, it's you. It's going to be you. Game over." ~Mhairi McFarlane

#quote #love #marriage #relationships #grownostr

yes. relatable. it wasn't love at first sight. i didn't even know what love was. but it's a comfort; a feeling of ease. something that causes you to pause internally, even if it's just a for a moment before you start back on your usual illusions, and think, "yeah, i'd strive to be better for Her."

what was your "moment" like?

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just fyi:

• caring for someone is not the same as having a crush
• making a connection during tough times is not a trauma bond
• showing affection is not love-bombing
• being less talkative is not withdrawal
• being introverted is not being avoidant
• a lie is not gaslighting
• also, a bad memory is not gaslighting
• feeling uncomfortable is not being overstimulated
• focusing on yourself is not being a narcissist

any questions?

#relationships #asknostr

are these types of questions too personal for and/or too open-ended for #nostr ?

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what are three wins or accomplishments you're proud of so far this month?

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a narrow bridge a man has to walk in an FLR is expressing his needs without steering the relationship. this basically means to reveal the need without requesting its fulfillment.

early on, it was a struggle to even identify the actual need. then it became a challenge to express a need without implying a sort of critique or request. the challenge is learning how to share feelings as offerings instead of needs, as vulnerability instead of negotiation, as honesty instead of silence.

what kinds of challenges do you experience when expressing emotional needs in your relationship?

is it easy for you to pinpoint your own needs? do you struggle with expressing them?

do you feel pressured or critiqued when approached by your partner?

how does the idea of offering feelings instead of discussing/negotiating needs resonate with you? or do you prefer more direct communication??

#relationships #grownostr #asknostr

deep passion in a relationship requires a certain tolerance of uncertainty. without an element of uncertainty there is no longing, no anticipation. this places feelings of passion at odds with the feeling of security in a relationship.

would you agree with this premise? why or why not?

#relationships #marriage #asknostr #grownostr

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little spoon? big spoon? or switch?

why?

#relationships #asknostr #grownostr

is being loved a fundamental need? i think most would say yes.

but what about being desired?—would you consider that a need, also? or is it selfish?

is being desired part of what being loved means to you, or are they separate concepts?

please share your thoughts :3

#relationships #love #intimacy #grownostr #asknostr

last week i was curious about spontaneous vs. planned "intimate" moments. i think most preferred spontaneous moments—maybe because planning is such a terrible word to be associated with intimacy. planning sounds like scheduling, which sounds like work, which sounds... not fun.

however, i think there is a bit of planning (maybe this is the wrong word) that goes into the energy for those "spontaneous" moments happen. perhaps this is overlooked, especially in the beginning of a relationship when things seem "easier." my take is that more will, attention, and intentionality is needed to maintain this energy as two lives merge into one.

the idea of keeping the "flame on simmer" was mentioned and i really loved it. so here are some questions:

do you feel this requires an intentional effort on your part, or is it something that happens almost unconsciously? what are things you do to keep the flame simmering?

#marriage #relationships #romance #love #intimacy #grownostr #asknostr

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do you prefer "intimate" moments that are spontaneous and "just happen" in the heat of the moment? or do you prefer a more planned "intimate" experience that are built up with anticipation?

#relationships #marriage #romance #intimacy #grownostr #asknostr

#memes #memestr #grownostr #asknostr

"tell me what to do" (tell me what you need) is not as attractive as simply being attentive.

do you agree? what would (or does) this look like for you?

#relationships #intimacy #grownostr #asknostr

the depth of your commitment to another is tied to your capacity to be with yourself during difficult moments.

how do you navigate and stay grounded during moments of doubt, uncertainty, or stress?

#relationships #marriage #asknostr #grownostr

gentlemen, would you rather be with a woman who respects you a lot, but is not very physically intimate with you? or a woman who has only a little respect you, but is very physically intimate with you?

#relationships #asknostr

marriage is often regarded as something constricting—something confining or limiting.

so let's look at the opposite: in what ways does your marriage, or your relationship, offer you more freedom? when do you feel the most free in your relationship?

#relationships #marriage #grownostr #asknostr

dreams are so interesting, but i don't understand them. how do you interpret them? do you think they're glimpses into the subconscious??

#dreams #asknostr

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how do you reconcile the need for something safe, stable, and predictable with the desire for something mysterious, exciting, and extraordinary?

#relationships #asknostr

what does receiving devotional love look like for you?

#relationships #grownostr #asknostr

gentlemen: what do you consider the most romantic thing a woman has done for you? and no—anything sexual, "having my child," "marrying me," etc doesn't count. it has to be something special, not generic.

ladies: i'll open this up for you as well. what do you consider as the most romantic thing you've ever done for a man? (same rules apply)

#relationships #romance #asknostr #grownostr

i was hoping this would do better today. maybe it was bad timing?

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gentlemen: what do you consider as the most romantic thing you've ever done for a woman?

#relationships #romance #asknostr #grownostr

ugh, does anyone know where a cat can get a free domain i can use to setup a lightning address..?

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what are some of the ways that you keep romance alive in your long-term relationship?

#relationships #romance #grownostr #asknostr

what are your hobbies? what do you do for fun? what do you do to unwind? #asknostr #grownostr

me: https://image.nostr.build/917456ea2743ce58c9cca6cb97a4ef820a500e60f6401a92bbb3356364cceb9b.jpg

an FLR is more than just a relationship type. by this i mean that it's not a substitute for a healthy relationship—rather, it that adds layers of depth and connection for a couple. an FLR is not a band-aid or a fix for an unhealthy or unhappy relationship.

what do you consider as foundational traits of a healthy relationship?

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #relationships #grownostr #asknostr

does anyone know the reasoning for following AND muting someone on #nostr ?

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i've been #writing another vignette in my spare time. it was intended to be something brief, (< 1000 words), but now it's grown to over 3000.

is that too long for #nostr ? as in, is that too long of a read? that's like, 10-20 minutes... will anyone even read it here? can it be found? would it be better to post it elsewhere..?

idk, just some questions i'd throw out there.

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