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Love does not keep score. A thread #🧵

Control does.

Keeping score in #relationships isn’t romance. It’s behavioral accounting, and science knows exactly what that is.

🧠 What real psychology says

Healthy attachment is built on #trust #reciprocity and emotional #safety

Not ledgers. Not tallies. Not “I did this so you owe me that.”

When someone keeps score, they’re operating from:

#Insecure attachment #Fear of abandonment #Low emotional regulation Need for #dominance or #leverage

That’s not love. That’s anxiety wearing a crown.