The Recipe for Relationship Ruin

The recipe for the downfall of a relationship is quite simple: marry someone with whom you have nothing in common.

The exotic tends to be attractive, but how many times, in a fine restaurant, has a customer discreetly spat into a napkin what they had just chewed because the eye-catching appearance betrayed them with an unbearable taste?

At the end of a hard day or a week of good results, we simply want to recline in a chair and celebrate in our own way what we have overcome. In the high phase of life, when the days are ripe for harvest, this desire will manifest with even greater intensity. And when your prosperity extends into the shade, and the days grow longer due to idleness, what will the two of you have to talk about?

Will your mentalities align?

Or will this person nestle on your shoulder and pour out a history of degeneration, drinking, parties, and casual relationships, because that is their only life experience?

I do not speak only in the professional sense, but of progress as a whole: when you have overcome your flaws, will you want to share your life with someone who nurtures theirs and takes their own ego as a lover?

Some are lucky to meet during the journey—a great privilege. But in general, the busy ones find each other after the work is done, and it is natural for both to want to enjoy in this peaceful phase what their efforts have granted them. At that moment, being beside someone whose travels or experiences are fresh and well-earned as rewards for their own sacrifices contrasts with sharing life with someone who has already been through it countless times, with the merit of a parasite.

Opportunists and freeloaders exist on both sides. Do not take by the hand someone who is merely waiting for a winner at the finish line. It is easy to appear clean and unscarred when one has not run even a kilometer. Do not be unfair to your lifelong efforts; find someone who represents you in determination, ethics, and principles, and you will multiply your fruits here on Earth. Also, remember that old piece of advice: "be what you seek to have," so that your future demands are not those of a hypocrite.

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