Submissive Masculinity

Being a submissive guy is such an intense, paradoxical experience. It's typically assumed that a man taking on a submissive role is abandoning his masculinity. But this isn't the case, especially in a healthy dynamic.

This most likely stems from a general misunderstanding of masculine energy, which is often associated with dominance and control. But at it's deepest level masculine energy is stability, presence, and awareness. And this energy can absolutely be embodied in a submissive stance—the expression of it is found internally rather than externally.

The intensity of the submissive dynamic is that, as a man, you're expected to be open and vulnerable, however, you absolutely cannot break or fall apart without risking the dynamic and maybe even the relationship. So the vulnerability can't be raw; it has to be intentional. Because you don't want to spill your unprocessed pain at Her feet to clean up, you want to pour your ache and sacrifice and devotion for Her to drink.

So you offer yourself to a Woman, being moved by Her, tested by Her—teased and denied, held and destabilized, pushed and pulled by Her... and no matter what you remain devoted. You remain steadfast, present, and conscious through it all...

That's where the strength in submission resides.
And therein lies the constant tension—

Either falling as a man who dumps his emotions on Her to carry, or remaining the man who offers his emotions for Her to receive.